Can my anger be justified on Grace?

I really don't want to get angry, for it takes away my peace of heart. I am the person of discipline, I can't compromise discipline for love. My elder daughter is so indifferent, not listening to me and my wife. She has her own world and life style. She is lazy to do household work, always wants to eat outside, and least worried about her future and education. How can loving parents accept this kind of attitude?